On This … Our Wedding Day.

Which was not to be.

We didn’t get married. We didn’t call to check on the status. Instead, I drove home from my parents’ house 3 hours away with a carsick toddler who had to pee (potty training) every five minutes down the highway.

By the time we got home, I had stopped at no less than 4 gas stations and hauled a toddler and her portable potty chair ring into their bathroom. Sometimes she went, sometimes, she had already gone. Thank goodness for pull-ups on long car rides.

I also got to clean up puke on the side of the highway. Lots and lots of puke. So much puke that I had to change my kid, wipe down the seat, and then put her back in it. Puke in the hair, puke on the hands, puke on her most favorite blanket. But, once she was done puking and all cleaned up, she was better. Feeling better enough to keep watching her movie.

Mommy was tired. Worn out and tired.

We had a nice visit with my family though. Lots of nice times and sweet moments. And it took my mind off the fact that we weren’t getting married. I got to spend time with people I love and people who were equally as disappointed that we weren’t getting married.

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It’s nice to have supportive family who love us so much. I really is. Of course, there are some well wishers and people who really do mean well – but let’s just say the one thing not to say to console a person who CAN’T GET MARRIED is to tell them that marriage is just a piece of paper.

Or that we don’t need a piece of paper to know how much we love each other.

That’s not the point. The love isn’t the point. This marriage, this paper that so many straight couples (who I love dearly and I know meant no disrespect) take for granted gives so many rights and privileges that we don’t have.

So, actually – yes. WE do need that piece of paper. To make our lives complete and legal and as equal in the eyes of the law, we do need that paper.

In order for Kim to make medical decisions on my behalf without the hassle of courts and lawyers and still the possibility of a judge declaring its not legal. We do need that paper.

In order for us to be equal parents to our daughter, make decisions in all aspects of her life – financial, education, medical – we do need that paper.

I think people forget, or they are just not aware of the many rights that you are afforded when you get married. It’s not about declaring your love to someone, we’ve been doing that for 11 years. Now, it’s about the same rights. The same standard of care we should be getting from our government in the form of taxes, spousal benefits, and guardianship of our daughter.

Its the legal aspect that means the most.

So do I need a piece of paper to tell the world I love the woman I have been with for the last 11 years? No. That’s a given.

I know the phrase “Its just a piece of paper” is one given out of love and consolation. One that is supposed to make us feel better.

Unfortunately. It only means that there are still people in the world, people who love and support us, who don’t fully understand the ramifications of our being unable to marry.

It’s not about religious beliefs. It’s not about love. It’s not about some ceremony or tradition. Its not about procreation or even raising a kid in the ‘right family.’

You can read about what it’s really about: It’s about the rights we don’t have.

It will come and I think that’s what is so frustrating. This delay is just a delay. An unnecessary waste of energy, time, and emotional heartbreak. In the end, what is another month, really? What has changed? Not much.

Other than the idea that we should have been getting married today. And we didn’t.

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The Year of 30

So, I have a few weeks until I am the big 3-0. I don’t think it has really hit me very much. I mean … not really. I joke about getting old and my knee is out of whack and I’m on a fair amount of meds. But in the end, 30 really isn’t much of anything. I guess we will see how I feel when I am actually 30. LOL.

What surprises me the most, is that my life has turned out the way it has. I thought, growing up, especially as a teenager, you were supposed to find your mate in high school, breed like rabbits, get divorced, and live forever unhappy.

And that just hasn’t happened.

Thank goodness for that!

Instead, I am spending my time with the little mini me that I have always dreamed of. I swear, our little chickadee is growing by leaps and bounds and if she doesn’t stop soon, I might just die of sadness.

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We have discovered that Miss Punky is obsessed with Batman. I have no idea how – because its not like we watch or read it. But she came home one day yelling out “Batman!” and “Fireball” that’s a new one.

She’s for real throwing fireballs at us. It pretty adorable, really.

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We had a pretty low-key weekend otherwise. I am working early every day this week, so it’s off to bed early for me. But, I just couldn’t go without sharing my most favorite pictures of this weekend.

Because let’s face it, a Batman tutu and pink converse is for sure the best fashion statement EVER.

I mean seriously. How can you not just die of absolute melting at this face? Maybe I’m biased?!

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She’s a singing fool. She knows all of “Ring Around the Rosie” and holds her own finger to turn around in circles for the song when her moms are just too tired to do it AGAIN. She does a generally interesting version of “Itsy Bitsy Spider” though the hand movements are spot on.

We introduced her to American Tail this weekend. My goodness, what a spectacle she made of herself! She was just so concerned every time the mice were attacked by cats. It was both heart warming and migraine inducing at the same time – each time the cats attacked, she shrieked and covered her mouth. It was super serious!

Don't mind me, yes it's another Batman shirt, because we isn't allowed to wear the giant tutu every moment of her life, like she would like.

Don’t mind me, yes it’s another Batman shirt, because we isn’t allowed to wear the giant tutu every moment of her life, like she would like.

So, we had a nice time at the park this morning, ran into some interesting people and had some interestingly dare-devilish moves from my monkey of a daughter!

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In the end, the weekend was full of some much needed Mommy, Punky time and we had a blast. It was nice weather and like my young babygirl who is now attempting to sleep, I am also exhausted and headed to bed. Not thrilled to start the work week, but we are truckin’ along regardless!

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10/52 – Exploring the Sandbox

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After I picked Miss Punky up from school today, it was about 5:30 and it was pretty nice outside. No wind, not too hot, not too cold, so I decided it was the perfect time to get her to the park for a bit. No sooner did we get our feet in the sand than the rain came sprinkling in.

We didn’t get to play long, but it was enough for her to know that she likes sand! We will be going back on Thursday after school again.

Punky’s Awesome Cars Second Birthday Party

Last year was Punky’s one year Dr. Suess Extravaganza, because she and I spent a great deal reading books before bed and spending time hanging out with each other with our noses in books.

I got this from Baby Center this afternoon. Way to put me in a shock for the day. It went from Baby, to Toddler, to Preschooler in a span of time that feels like overnight!

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This year, Miss Punky has gotten really into all things cars and trucks. Kim found some really neat things on Pinterest to make an awesome cars themed party. So, as usual, I ran with it. I’ve been planning more parties and setting up more parties lately and I do love every minute of it. It’s different when it’s your own kid!

Then it’s all the more special!

So, we started with the racecar theme. I incorporated the Cars Movie theme because its trendy right now and the decorations were easy to find and I didn’t have to make everything myself.

So, I made the invitation, and this is the one I’m selling in the shop, it’s not my original, because that has our identifying information it, but this is what it looks like. I’ve shown it before, but I’m so proud of this design, made from scratch, so I wanted to share it again!

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Then came all the ideas that were going through my head. Originally, I was going to have cupcakes and put toppers on them with racing flags and Cars characters. That idea was scrapped when Kim came up with the idea of making the cupcakes like stop lights. Red, green, yellow frosting! So we went with that instead. The food was going to be simple anyway, a small cake in the center for her to blow out her candle, and cupcakes for everyone else. Finger foods and no need for utensils means less clean up!

The night before, we all headed over to Punky’s Grammy’s house to make 100 cupcakes (we still have a ton in my kitchen right now) and help start the cake that she would blow out her candles with. Punky made an excellent taste tester when it came to cupcake batter and the ‘dirt’ for the trimming of her cake.

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It was a pretty awesome experience to make her stuff from scratch as a family. I really have to say, her Grammy did an excellent job with this, I originally asked if she could help us with the project and she took over like a pro. I just love all the things she did with it! The cupcakes and the cake were both a hit at the party and everyone kept asking me where I got them. They were astonished that I didn’t get them done professionally, because they looked so awesome.

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The rest of the food was pretty much finger foods. And a little bit of a wacky array of foods, I admit, but it all went with the theme!

We had Luigi’s Spare Tires (Miniature Chocolate Covered Donuts), Guido’s White Wall Tires (Miniature Powdered Sugar Donuts), Tow Mater’s Tow Cables (Chocolate and Strawberry Twizzlers), Nuts and Bolts (Chex Mix). We set it up like people were eating at Flo’s V8 Cafe to re-fuel and hang out.

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There were four stations through the party venue; Flo’s V8 Cafe, Ramone’s House of Body Art, Sarge’s Surplus Hut, and Tow Maters Photo Booth. I got the inspiration and a few of the signs downloaded at this site which I found through Pinterest and put my own spin on some things.

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The kids had a blast with the temporary tattoos. I just cut out each tattoo individually and then set up the station with a little ‘drip pan’ and sponges for parents to help apply the ‘paint job’ to the kids. It was pretty convenient that the area had a nice sink area to refill the water and make less mess.

The food made up most of the awesome factor as a visual, but I did spend a lot of time on the tables and the decorations. So, we turned a boring clubhouse room into a party room in about 5 hours.

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The tables were set up to look like roads, with black tablecloths and white address labels down the center of them. I got two Cars party theme kits at Walmart for about $7 a piece, they had the cardboard centerpieces and cones in the packages. I bought a miniature helium tank to blow up some balloons that had Lightning McQueen and Tow Mater on them to attach the cones in the center of the tables.

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Walmart had a ton of decorations and party favors fit for the theme, since it’s so trendy right now. I got a couple packages of activity books and a large box of crayons since we were dealing with a bunch of little ones in attendance. I made some custom chocolate bar wrappers with the cars characters on them and set the candies out on the tables too. In the end, there were three die-cast cars running up and down the roads on the table as well, just for an added effect to go with the theme.

Party City had a great scene setter that I put up on the wall, 6ft plastic puzzle I had to piece together on the wall. Punky’s godfather made an awesome little car cutout photo booth with a poster board and acrylic paints. It was way  more awesome than I expected it to even be!

The banner for the entrance was also another find at Walmart and I set out the Cars rug that Punky got for her half birthday and a crate of cars for the kids to play with. They really got a kick out of the cars and driving them around on the roads.

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I recently just learned about Spotify and I’m in love with it. I didn’t really listen to music that much before it, but in my down moments, it’s been a real lifesaver to helping me really get through this anxiety and depression I’ve been in lately. With that said, I was thrilled when I found this playlist for a Cars themed birthday party! So, I uploaded the songs and played it on repeat at the party.

playlistMy mom came up to celebrate Punky’s birthday and she doesn’t have internet, let alone Facebook, so I put together a video of all of Punky’s last two years. I put together a slideshow of her pictures, some of my favorites anyway. I turned it on and let it play on repeat as well, for people to watch and remember and to see how much she has grown and changed in the last two years.

We had a pretty good day yesterday, celebrating our little one’s second birthday. Kim had a small scare for all of us towards the middle of the party. She hadn’t eaten anything because she was feeling good and she sort of fainted on the porch of the clubhouse. The ambulance and firetruck was out there helping with her vitals. In the end, they recommended she go to the hospital, but she was feeling better, so we got her something to eat and she’s been feeling better, as much as she can, since she ate.

Otherwise, we were surrounded by so many family and friends and Miss Punky has so much love in her life and I am so grateful all the great people in her life that love her. As a parent in a ‘non-traditional’ family setting, it is always the one thing that scares me that Punky will be rejected because of her moms. That’s the last thing I want, but it’s always in the back of my mind. I’m so glad, so far, that we haven’t had to deal with that.

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We had the cake, and that was great. I expected her to cry and get upset about the singing and clapping, but she was eating it all up. It was such a 180 from last year!

When everyone was done singing, I had to whisper a reminder to blow out her candle. It was kind of cute to watch after the fact, as I had no idea we were being filled, thanks to Punky’s godmother who had my camera at the time 🙂

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Presents were hilarious with Miss Punky. She would open one present and then get preoccupied with opening it right away and she said “Thank You” over and over. It was kind of awesome. She’s really quite adorable!

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Our Punky is a great mix of all sorts of things. She likes babies and dolls and high heels and she likes tools and trucks and balls. She really is the perfect mix bag for a child. Especially for two moms with completely opposite interests – we suit her interests well, I think.

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Do you see that giant Radio Flyer, with the 6-foot ramp? Yea, that’s from my dear Mama. Can you also notice my face in reaction to this. Punky thinks its awesome, Mommy is trying to figure out 1. how we get it home, and 2. how we fit it in the apartment. LOL. It’s an awesome gift though and she will get so much use out of it this summer!

So, our daughter turned 2 this last week and it was pretty successful, minus the small ambulance snafu, which I am currently keeping an eye on now, taking the day from work to make sure my dear love is okay.

So, the party was a hit, the baby was spoiled rotten, and I am exhausted!

If you are interested in using the printables that I made or acquired for this party, please feel free! They will be at this link for the next few weeks 🙂

I’ll leave you with this day in history for Punky’s birthday on March 7th that I found on Baby Center Birthday Time Machine. Try it out, it’s kind of neat!

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Tales From The Playroom

I was asked to write a blog post about Punky’s playtime by DropCam and their campaign for Tales from the Playroom. That’s what I think I will do today.

Today is Punky’s second birthday and that post will come later, likely after her party. She’s pretty darn sick this morning, breathing treatments and everything.

So instead, I thought I’d post a little about the conversations that are suddenly emerging from our beautiful little girl. Since she started preschool, she is showing a bursting of communication. It came on so suddenly, I just can’t believe it. We can have conversations with her – broken conversations and sometimes I don’t know what she’s saying, but it’s astonishing to me that we even have the ability to have conversations with her.

It feels like just yesterday that she was born and now she is pretending, singing simple songs and carrying on two and three word sentences to tell me what’s going on in her head.

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Her favorite phrases right now are “Get Up Mommy” and “Sit Down Mommy.” She’s getting a little bit of bossy in her. Then there are moments when she says “Good Morning, Mama.” out of the blue or counts to six without being prompted. She will sit on the seat next to her Mama and carry on full conversations, obviously, Mama does tend to look at her like she has no idea what she’s saying, but it’s super cute to watch.

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My baby girl has become a big girl overnight. Her playtime right now consists of talking to Dora and repeating Team Umizoomi phrases when they tell her to say things. It’s kind of hilarious to hear her in her room making sounds for her cars and when playing with her animals, she makes them talk to each other in their own little sounds.

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She’s come to love more things, pick out favorites and things that she likes. She knows what she likes and she is having a much better time communicating that in her play. 

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It’s been two years since she came into our life and she’s turning into a little person right before my eyes. Kim thinks I’m nuts, but every time I look at her, I still can’t believe we are mothers, I am always astonished that we have a child and now, as I watch her play evolve and her speech get better and better, it’s so great to know that she’s our daughter and we are her mothers.

It’s the best feeling in the world.

I’ll leave you with a super cute conversation video to show how much we are having fun with the sweet toddler we have. She’s developed into quite the chatty cathy and the cheeks just seal the deal!

This post was inspired by the blog campaign “Tales From The Playroom” done by Dropcam. It’s a high definition video baby monitor, with live streaming to keep up with your kiddo inside and outside the house. I don’t have a baby monitor, and I don’t know that we really need one – as we have a tiny apartment and an eye on the kiddo at all times, but it looks like an awesome device for new parents with the need! Check them out.  If any of you would like to participate in the Tales From the Playroom campaign you can email the Community Manager of Drop Cm with your story/questions at tpham(at)dropcam(dot)com.

9/52 – Discovering Dora

Panties that is.

Remember the panties we got Miss Punky for school, in case the thought she might be interested in the potty training? She found a stray package I kept at home and slipped them up around her pants.

This week, we discovered that we love to wear panties. Right now, we are just putting them on. She initiated the idea of pulling her Dora panties up over her pants and running around the house.

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She graduated to wearing these panties over her pull up and now in most cases she will ask for them to be put on. Today she was a little ill, so she wasn’t interested in doing much. I’m sure the panties will come back in style around the house soon enough.

Are we starting potty training? Not really. Do I wish we were? Yep!

We aren’t pushing the issue though. Our Punky monster will be 2 in less than 2 days. More like 1 day and 12 hours or something like that. March 7th at 6:30PM, Miss Punky will be TWO.

She knows the name of all her private areas and where they are located, but she doesn’t know what that means. I also don’t think she is ready to communicate that she has to go or has already gone.

I think she may still be a little too young for panties and for real potty training, but I suppose if she’s good with wearing them and gets used to having them on, perhaps the transition won’t be a nightmare when the time comes!

8/52 – Discovering Preschool

A whole lot has happened in the last few weeks. We have been doing a ton of things.

Today though, our daughter, little Miss Punky, started preschool today!

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I got her up this morning and she got up earlier than normal, so when I told her “We are going to school!” she shook her head at me in her sleepy eyed expression and said “No Mommy.” after she’s been asking for it all week.

Once I got her out of bed, dressed, and ready to go, she couldn’t get out of the apartment fast enough and quiet enough with all the cheering she was doing.

When we got to the preschool to drop her off, I couldn’t get her coat off fast enough before she was moving onto playing and Mommy was no longer interesting. I set up her stuff with the teachers and then came back to tell her bye before I left to go to work, she didn’t really look like she gave it a second thought!

I was a little anxious leaving her, but finding her quite content, I left with a half ass hug and a forced kiss on the cheek. I thought about what she was doing all day and wondering if she was scared or if she was doing alright.

By the time I got back to pick her up, I walked in and asked her if she wanted to go home and she said, “No Mommy.” I got her to come around to the idea of going home to see her Mama.

When we got home, she was playing in her room and suddenly I hear her in there yelling “Help! Help me!”

We haven’t ever heard this before so I was a little alarmed. Come to find out, she needed her butt changed. She had pooped in her pull-up and she wanted help getting her butt changed. Well, goodness, that’s a new development.

ALSO, she’s currently eating a pepperoni – that’s also a first! Maybe the preschool will kick my picky eater out of the house!

They told me she had a good day and she only cried for a minute when another mom was picking up her kid. So, seems like she had a good day.

I’m hoping she will sleep well tonight!

I’ve been also planning her birthday party. It’s a Cars theme. Racecar mostly, but since I can find all sorts of stuff in the Cars movie theme, we have a Cars blowout planned.

Now that people have gotten the invitations, I can share it. This is the one I sell in the Etsy shop, so it doesn’t have our information on it, but this is what it looks like.

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I am working on making her a pillowcase dress out of Cars fabric, which will be black and red primarily. Likely short enough to put her in leggings underneath, since it’s probably going to cold. I’m super excited about it.

I plan on ordering a blank round cake for her candles and then her Grammy and I are going to make a whole lotta cupcakes! I got some cars cupcake wrappers and cupcake towers and I made my own cupcake toppers.

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I have all sorts of ideas for finger foods and Cars themed names like the powdered donuts as “white wall tires” and chocolate covered donuts as “spare tires” and chex mix as “nuts and bolts” and all sorts of other stuff! I’m super excited about the party.

I have lots of decorations in mind and I have sketched it out from my head to paper and gathering up the stuff I need to make this party as good as last  year. Lots of stuff!!

And finally, this last weekend, I took Miss Punky to a birthday party for a little girl that we have known since she was a quasi-neighbor. The girl is two weeks older than Punky so its fun to see them grow up and blossom together.

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And I took her, in her super cute birthday party outfit to our favorite picture taking spot. But, it was a little too chilly to hang out there, so we took a few pictures, but it ended in tears and then hugs.

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All in all, we had a decent weekend and a great first two days to the week!

Guess Who Starts Pre-School on Tuesday

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I enrolled Miss Punky into daycare part time for two days a week. It’s a daycare with a Preschool curriculum, so I’m excited for her to go. It’s not as pricey as I would have thought, perhaps not what I want to spend extra money on that we don’t really have, but it will be worth it.

We have decided that while we know that Punky is turning two and it’s just her developmental stage, she’s also bored. She doesn’t really get out and go places and see other kids on a regular basis. We are thinking that may have lead to some of the outbursts and tantrums.

In fact, since the start of the sticker chart, I have seen less frustration and agitation from her. I don’t see her all day, but so far, she seems to be more subdued!

Anyway, she’s going to be attending daycare from 7:30AM – 5:30PM in the 2-3 year old (Coconuts) classroom starting on Tuesday and she will go Tuesdays and Thursdays. It’s a pretty nice facility and the staff seems great! She will have breakfast, lunch, and two snacks; as well as a nap by the time I pick her up from school.

Speaking of naps, I needed to get her a nap mat for school, so I went online to look, Walmart had some pretty cheap ones, so I let her tell me which ones she liked. She said yes to a bunch and to all the princess ones she made an emphatic “No” and she said yes to five different ones. I put them all on one page and asked her to pick her favorite.

This was verdict!

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The dinosaur! I expected her to pick the cars one, but she kept pointing between the dinosaur and the owl. But every time she left and came back it was dinosaur. So her dinosaur nap mat has been ordered. It won’t come in time for her to go to school on Tuesday, but in a few weeks it will be here.

I got paid today, so I was able to pick up some ‘school clothes’ or ‘play clothes’ for her to take to school and keep there. Since she’s in the 2-3 year old class, they suggested that I bring enough for potty training, because she will probably see the other kids potty training and be interested.

So, on top of starting preschool and picking out her own nap mat. She now has panties. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!

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I cannot believe that I am already buying panties for my big girl. I mean, seriously, she will be 2 in literally 2 weeks!! She has a variety of panties in Dora, My Little Pony, and plain pink and white designs. We won’t be pushing the idea and I told  her teachers to let her lead, but we may have a potty trained two year old before you know and I am just floored.

I can’t take much more of this. I hear if you stop feeding them, they stop growing .. I can’t get her to stand still long enough to put books on her head, so perhaps that method will work!

Oi. People. Our kid is starting to stress me out and not in a bad way!! This Mommy is all kinds of sentimental right now, mostly over panties. LOL.

6/52 – New Haircut

IMG_4594Discovering new ways to do Miss Punky’s hair. Thanks to the girl who cut her hair for suggesting it. I absolutely love the place that cuts her hair, they are fun and easy and totally geared towards kids.

We also discovered new ways to spend time together. We have been to Smallcakes before, it’s a cupcakery that has all sorts of very delicious cupcakes. So after her haircut this week, we took 3.25 and shared a Caramel Crunch cupcake and it was awesome.

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Overall, we had another great week.

We also learned some new words. Like “Clock” except she can’t say the “L”, thus it comes out very inappropriate. Mix that with Kim encouraging her to say she likes “Clocks and Balls” – which thank goodness she can’t fully say, it’s pretty hilarious, but so very inappropriate!

 

Hello … Are We Sure This Is My Life?

So, its that time again. I just can’t even believe our kid is coming up on the 2 year old mark. I mean, seriously. I carried her inside of me for nearly a year and now we have had her in our lives for damn near 2 years.

Does this feeling of disbelief ever go away? I mean, I’m still astonished that we have a kid. I’m still astonished every day that I wake up and go into her room and find her there. I still sometimes feel like I’m living in a dream world, waiting to wake up from this life where we have been together for almost 11 years (through mental illness, a plethora of moves, and a baby carriage) and we have a child against all odds.

It never would have been possible for us to get pregnant the way most lesbian couples get pregnant. We aren’t the ‘saving’ kind and frankly, we are very not thrifty with our money. We live paycheck to paycheck – even now, so going through any sort of fertility treatments, like another great blog buddy posted her medication costs and I damn near fell out of my chair. Buying up sperm at a sperm bank would never have been an option for us.

The first time we looked into the sperm banks online, we were seriously considering it, but when it came time to really step into the financials of it all, we knew, it wasn’t in the cards, realistically. In fact, I think Kim and I were pretty resolved to never having kids of our own.

I think that’s why my astonishment still lingers. I know that it’s tough for the gals and couples out there who are struggling with their baby making journey and my heart breaks for all of them with each new BFN. But, I am so very thankful for the turn of events that happened so unexpectedly in our life.

No, we didn’t conceive in the conventional lesbian way, not even the ‘turkey baster’ way. I’m not ashamed to say that we went the cheap and some would call it “easy” way. I don’t think we called it easy at the time. Emotionally and physically the whole thing was draining. However, lucky for us, it didn’t take long and we had a baby in the belly. Thank goodness, I don’t think we would have been strong enough to make it more than 1 cycle.

I really can’t thank our donor enough for all that he helped us accomplish with the goodness and selflessness of his heart. Literally, I’m going to be forever grateful to that man for giving us a piece of himself and asking NOTHING in return.

My point is, holy shit, we have a two year old and I still look at her in complete and utter awe. I don’t know if that is a normal feeling for all moms, I’m not sure if this is something extraordinary I am feeling. But, I keep waiting for the feeling to wear off. I keep expecting that one day I will come to grips with the fact that I have a tiny mini-me running around our apartment.

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So, speaking of our nearly 2 year old, it’s that time again. It’s time to start planning a birthday party. I am what I guess you would call a “Pinterest Mom”. I never really noticed that this was a negative term until I read about it in another blog buddy‘s post a few days ago. In the end, I figure anyone who thinks it’s negative is simply jealous.

I also read an article on Babble about giving up the extravagant parties and have low-key affairs for our kids. Well, that’s all well and good, but not going to happen. The first birthday party, the Dr. Seuss Extravaganza, was mostly for me, people asked why we would want to have such a large party for  one year old who wouldn’t remember it.

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You have a point. However,  I’m not ashamed to admit that the party was purely for me. I wanted to celebrate her first year with a bang. I wanted to make sure everyone could celebrate her with us. I wanted to always remember the first birthday of our only baby girl. Our miracle baby, whom we didn’t think would have ever existed. So, yes. We had a giant party in her honor and no, she won’t remember.

So, why then, would I want to put myself through another giant party for my two year old? I have two sets of family members on my side of the family, Kim has two sets of family members on her side. If we didn’t have the money or the willpower to save for sperm, we sure as hell don’t have the money to save for four different birthday parties.

Instead, we suck it up and make one very large event. It’s just easier! It will likely be the way of her life for many years to come until celebrating with her aunts and uncles and grandparents become a thing of the past and we transition into the slumber parties and spa days for her birthdays.

I’m going to milk those days as long as I can. So, we have decided on a cars theme this year. Punky is all about her cars right now. She’s loving the cars and the trucks and drives them all over our apartment for hours.

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So, it only makes sense that we would make it a big to-do. So, I am sending out ‘car’ invitations with ‘pit crew’ VIP passes. My goal is to make a few wearable cardboard box cars for kids to race around in out of diaper boxes, if I can muster the creativity and the talent!

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I can’t decide between a dress similar to this one:

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Or this one:

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But I’m leaning towards the tutu just because I am likely going to be making her dress myself and my sewing skills may not be sophisticated enough for the first one, even though I think it may be more Punky’s style. We will have to see!

Anyway, the great birthday bash preparation has begun for the All Out Cars Event for Punky’s second birthday. Do I think it’s over ambitious? Yes. Do I think it’s ridiculous? Yes. Ask me if I care? I don’t! My kid will always have the best of everything. She will have all the things I didn’t have (that’s a post for another day) and she will grow up knowing she was loved and cherished by her mothers no matter what may come.

Period. Whether she’s down for it all the time or not. We will likely smother her in our love.

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When she looks back on her childhood, I want her to smile. I want her to remember the good things she did, the fun she had and the joy she had being a CHILD. I don’t want her to grow up too fast, I don’t want her to be surrounded by things she doesn’t need to know yet. I will keep her small and happy for as long as possible. If I have my way, she will never have a sad day in her childhood, ever. At least not on my watch.

So will her party be excessive? Absolutely. Does it mean I’m probably spoiling her? Yea, most likely… She’s still the nicest, sweetest, kindest little toddler on the block. I think a little happiness in a kid’s life is A-Ok and I’m more than willing to provide it for her!

If you wanna follow all my preparations, you can check it out on Pinterest, where I pin pretty much obsessively. Check out my board.