My Kid Has Two Moms. We Still Celebrate Father’s Day.

So, in a house with two moms, Father’s Day isn’t really celebrated the traditional way. Yes, K and and I have dads and we celebrate them, along with both our stepdads. But, I have made it my mission to make sure that Punky also gets to celebrate this day. I don’t ever want her to feel out of place because she can’t celebrate this day too.

So, we have implemented Papa/Uncle Day.

Punky has several Papas and even more Uncles and she has one very awesome Godfather. So, we have decided to make sure that all of them know how much we appreciate them in Punky’s life. I decided we needed to do something extra special this year, so this crafty Mommy got to work and started making SHIRTS.

father's day

The six bags are for the six men she got to see today. My family lives three hours away, so we didn’t get to see them, but those shirts will be delivered later this month when we go to visit. So my dad, stepdad, and brother should be looking forward to their very own “saurus” shirt to match Punky’s!

All in all, we had a great day. Punky got to play with her cousins. We ate great food and had great company. I will say she almost gave me a heart attack when she took a tumble down her Grammy’s stairs. It was 8 carpeted stairs, but she fell backwards and upside down all of them. All I could do was scream since I was not anywhere near her to catch her.

It scared her more than anything and it damn near killed ME! Anyway, she’s ok and is no worse for wear. We had a great Papa/Uncle Day!

 

Birthday Party Planning for Procrastinating Mommy

Time snuck up on me! I swear, suddenly, my kid will be a year old in less than 6 weeks. How the hell did that happen?

This is not exactly abnormal to other parts of my life. I am pretty terrible about time management and remembering things. I have been looking forward to this birthday for months, and just now realized I have nothing really started. I have no decorations, no invites and no place to have this party!

With all the overtime I have been working this month, I haven’t had time to sit down with Kim either and go over what we want to do for the party. We have a theme and that’s about it. I do have a lot of inspiration and I am sure to try and use as many of them as possible.

Right now, I know that I am going to attempt to make my own invitations. I found these really cute tickets on Etsy and I think I want to try and make something similar. But for the invitations, I am looking at something like these that I also found on Etsy in this shop. Though I may end up buying the digital for it and printing to my hearts content. Especially if I get too behind and procrastinate too long.

I know of two things I am definitely shooting for doing for this party. I want to have a table set up with the book “Happy Birthday To You” and have guests write little notes to her in it. I have a journal that I have been keeping hand written letters to Peyton since before she was born. I have also decided that I will pass that around to all her immediate family (Aunts, Uncles, Grandmas and Grandpas) and have them write her a letter for her first birthday.

We have been taking weekly pictures of Peyton since she was born. I am going to be putting those on display. I think I will make a banner like this mother did on a blog I found.

Of course none of this is final, because Kim and I haven’t actually sat down and looked at things together. But, I do have a girl at work making her a cake for her to smash into. We need to come up with cake and food for everyone else at the party. I am using this cake as inspiration for her smash cake. We won’t have the exact same cake, but this is the color scheme and design look I am going for.

I so want her to wear something super cute on her birthday. I am toying around with two ideas. I don’t think this dress is going to be doable, because I don’t have a sewing machine or sewing skills, but its adorable! I might be able to ask the woman who made her Halloween costume to make it for me, but I don’t know if that’s too much to ask! I do so love it! The onesie and tutu are definitely doable. I can order the onesie from Etsy. I freaking love Etsy. Peyton already has a red tutu like this.

So now we need to do these things:

  • Find a place to have this party.
  • Make/Get Invitations and mail them.
  • Get decorations.
  • Get her something to wear
  • Figure out food!
  • Figure out the cakes
So, yes, I sort of used this post to make a list of things I need to remember to do. Oy. 6 weeks. I CANNOT BELIEVE IT. Our baby girl is just getting bigger and bigger and its ridiculous!
Take Care ❤
Rachael

Perfect Weekend with Peyton

I have been working a ton of overtime this month. January is our busiest month and overtime is usually mandatory. But, since my promotion last month, I have the opportunity to put lots of moolah in my pocket with extra overtime. So, I have been working 12 hour days and raking in the money. This is not only because Peyton’s birthday is coming up, but Kim’s is also coming up, as well as we just got a new car loan approved.

So, Saturday was the first real day off I had in a long time and I decided to use it to spend some time with my favorite gal! Peyton and I let her Mama sleep in and we tip toed out of the apartment for some adventures in our new car and around the town.

We found ourselves at the library. Peyton’s first trip to the library was when she was a few weeks old. So this was her first REAL trip to the library. She and I walked into the library and she just squeaked. Our little one really does love books. So, we headed to the board books section and sat on the floor. We had quite a time picking out books and reading them. She just sat in my lap and I read the books to her. It was the most precious thing I have ever experienced.

She tried to read herself.
Then she decided she needed 7 more books from the shelf.

In the end, we checked out a few books that she could read in the car. Last thing I need is for her to put the books in her toy box and I will forget to take them back. So, her library books will stay in the car. They keep her quiet back there and she enjoys chewing on them. I can’t imagine its the most sanitary of things, but what are mothers supposed to do. Board books are for babies. Babies chew on things. Oh. Well.

After the library, we went to the park. Saturday was a beautiful day and Mommy is on a diet and weight loss plan. So, walking around the park was a great stroke of genius. She’s too small still to sit in the baby swing, because it has not straps to hold her in and I am afraid she’s too top heavy to keep herself in it. So, instead, we went to a pretty garden area and she played on a bench.

Oh, to be a young kid again, so that a metal bench would be so amusing. I swear, we sat there on that bench, playing and investigating every piece of it for at least 45 minutes. I turned Pandora on my phone and we listened to the music. She danced and played on that bench, while Mommy watched.

I can’t believe our little one is almost a year old. In 6 weeks, she will be 1 year old. I just don’t believe it. She is learning new things every day and she is doing new things every day. Her little personality is just growing and evolving. I can’t to see what this tiny person becomes when she is older. She is my very heart. I am so glad I got to spend this weekend with her!!
Take Care ❤
Rachael

Its Been 7 months

Is it crazy that I am still astonished that we have a child? I mean, I get it. I planned for her, I carried her for nine months and she has been moving and shaking outside my belly for 7 months. I still can’t believe it. I still can’t fathom the fact that we have a child.

I find it hard to wrap my mind around the overwhelming sense of joy and love I have for Peyton. There is more in her eyes that melt my heart than anything ever has in my life. I never thought I could love someone as much as I love our daughter.
We were truly blessed. Absolutely blessed. I am not a religious person, so I am not quite sure how we were blessed, but its the only word I can think of to try and explain how I feel. Lucky, might be another way. Rewarded. For what, I am not sure. I can’t imagine what great deed I did in my life to deserve such a treasure. 
She has changed so much in the last 7 months. Her pictures really show how much she has changed. She started out as a tiny little blob of baby and she has grown into a ball of energy.
In the last 31 weeks, she has started crawling. She pulls herself up on things. She is never still for more than a few moments. She’s a giant. She is wearing 6-9 month sleepers and 12 month shirts and pants. She wears a size 2 shoe. She’s a TV junkie, which I suppose may not be good for her, but she’s a baby and she watches PBS Kids (To hell with you Mitt Romney, that’s a whole different topic). Our kid is smart. She is beautiful. She has personality.
She dances and she gives me wet. slobbery kisses and I love every minute of it. She eat “Happy Puffs” and really enjoys the Blueberry Sweet Potato and the Spinach Apple. We started giving her diced carrots and baby yogurt. Just this evening, she had a mixture of rice cereal and Plum Banana baby food. She ate the entire concoction. She doesn’t play around when it comes to her food.


All mothers should be real and make sure to mention that motherhood is a thankless job. Really, there are moments that I just don’t want to wrestle with her when I get home. I will be honest. But, then I look at her little smile and I just have to. I don’t have a choice. The little smile, full of four tiny teeth, she just gets me every time. No matter how tired I may be, she lights up my world.
She can smack me with her jerky little arm movements. She can pull my hair and poke me in the eye and I just don’t care. I am so thankful to have her in my life.
She truly is a miniature me, but she is so much more than that! To Kim and I both, she is the miracle that we have been given. She is the gift that we can share the rest of our lives. The bond that we will never break. 
I feel like now, when I had truly given up hope of having a child, I am finally fulfilled. She has completed me. I believe she has completed us. Our family is finally whole and after 7 months, I still can’t believe it.
Take Care
❤ Rachael

10 Things I Learned Since Becoming A Mother

The Children’s Songs You Thought You Knew. You don’t know them. Basically, I spend a majority of my time at home with Peyton, trying to remember the words to the songs I knew as a kid. My mother wouldn’t let us sing “Rock-a-bye Baby” so I couldn’t sing that song if you paid me a million dollars. Also, I find myself humming “Go to Sleep” though I don’t know the words, only the tune. And someone mentioned the game BINGO and I started singing the song. With clapping included for good measure.

I Can Talk To Myself In Public … IF I have Peyton With Me. Literally, if I am going down the aisles of Walmart – will simply talk to myself about what I have to do and go over my list. However, as long as I am looking at her, it not only keeps her entertained, it keeps me from looking like a schizophrenic.

Sleep When The Baby Sleeps? What a joke. I mean seriously. How does one sleep when the baby sleeps? When you have a million other things you need to do when the baby sleeps. You should probably get some food in your belly, take a shower, and do a load of laundry. When exactly would you have time to sleep when the baby sleeps. Whoever made up this rule, didn’t actually have kids. The mothers doling out this advice to new mothers, I am sure never actually followed it and its just a tradition passed down from mother to mother.

This is the first week. I forced myself to nap.

Burp Cloths are Ridiculous. You don’t need a burp cloth. In fact, I would suggest never using one. Instead, I have a plethora of receiving blankets. The problem with a burp cloth is that whoever made them didn’t think about the amount of vomit that MY kid would be producing. This means, that every time that Peyton pukes, while I am using a tiny replica of a burp cloth, I get rotten, regurgitated milk formula all down my back and in my shirt. Use a receiving blanket. To be honest, I am not sure what its real purpose is, but the receiving blanket is used for multiple tasks and is a staple in my house.

Babies are Engineered to Survive Their Annoyances. Simply put, there are days when I just want to pinch my kid. Like, literally, I want to grip her tiny little rolls on her thighs and pinch them. Just a little. However, no matter how much I want to do this, she doesn’t allow me. She has these big hazel eyes that look up at me with sparkles in them. She gives me that over the top uber cute smile and I just melt. Can’t be mad at that face. Can’t be annoyed at the smile. Can only shake my head in wonder.

How do you pinch this?!

You Think You Know What You Will Do. Then you have a baby of your own and realize, you just had no idea what you were talking about. I had very clear cut ideas on what kind of mom I was going to be. So did my partner. Our ideas may not have matched all the time, but we had similar views. She talked me into allowing Peyton to self soothe and I said that she didn’t need 17 outfits in a day. She would just grow out of them too fast to waste the money on them. Mind you, these were clear cut and dry intentions while I was pregnant. All that went out the window when Peyton was born. My partner can’t let Peyton cry for more than ten minutes without rocking her to sleep. I have bought the child more outfits than she can possibly wear in her lifetime. These are just SOME of the changes in my philosophy and she’s only 4 months old. Of course, I had ideas on toddler rearing too. Its coming up more quickly than I would like to think about.

That Myth About Newborns Not Getting Dirty… That’s bull. BS. A bold-faced lie. My little Peyton is the dirtiest kid I know. Not really. She’s not like .. covered in mud or anything, but she is pretty grimey. When I was pregnant, I read up on how often to bathe  newborn. Peyton isn’t really a newborn anymore, but when she was, we bathed her every other day if we could muster up the energy. Do you know why? Because she has rolls on rolls. On ROLLS. She has three chins and little bitty sausage toes that keeps stuff caked in there. Stuff that I can’t see unless I lift the folds and check. Take it from me, newborns DO get dirty and frankly, I don’t like to be lied to.

Her Bathrobe is Ridiculously Cute.

You Will Memorize That Book. Whether you want to or not. I had never read Dr. Suess’ ABC Book or Goodnight Moon before I started reading them to Peyton at night before bed. Now, I can recite both books cover to cover without looking at the book. Without the stupid board book even in the same room as me. Its weird. Its crazy. These are her two favorite books and yet, I don’t need to turn the pages, because I already know what’s coming next. Instead, I just let her chew on the corners while I recite the words.

The Piano Play Thing is God’s Gift To Parents. And I got mine at a garage sale. Look, I can’t say that your kid will FOR SURE love it. Peyton does though. Especially now that she is getting old enough to entertain herself. I can put her in this contraption, which by the way, my partner was oh so no thrilled that I filled our entire living room with the thing. She sits in it and it makes music on the top with her hands and on the bottom with her feet. She just dances and sings and has a good ol time. I highly recommend this toy above all other toys I have gotten Peyton. This includes the Bumbo everyone is so impressed with. I have personally used it for a week. Maybe I can use it when the solid foods kick in.

Coolest Toy EVER.

I Just Read Something About 4 Month Sleep Regression?! So, Peyton just turned 4 months a few days ago and low and behold, she is sticking true to this new thing I have learned about. Jeez. It certainly hasn’t been much fun. She refuses to go to sleep. When she does sleep, its not for very long. Apparently, when babies hit about 4 months, they start to sleep by human beings and not tiny people. This means that they cycle through light sleep and deep sleep instead of simply staying in deep sleep. This means that instead of putting themselves back to sleep on their own, since they don’t really know how to yet, when light sleep hits, they may decide its time to get up when it really isn’t. Not so awesome for me. In fact, so far that is my least favorite part of being a mommy. Peyton refuses to sleep. Literally. I have tried to let her cry it out. I have rocked her to sleep. I have fed her to sleep. No matter what, as soon as I lay her down, she’s awake again.

I sure wish she still slept like this.

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Did I mention that she rolls now? So she just rolls right over and wakes herself up if she’s not awake by the time she is laid into her crib.

So this is what we are dealing with right now. I am sure things will get easier, but good gracious, right now, Peyton is wearing me out. Who would have thought someone to tiny and so cute could be the conqueror of your life.