Daddy Date Night and Other Musings

Tonight was the night of my hometown’s “Daddy Date Night”. I’ve never in my entire life understood the big deal behind this date night. Probably because I have never been. Well, I take that back. I went once, on the last year I could go in fifth grade and by then I was ‘too old to care”.

Looking at all the great pictures of my friends and family’s little girls getting all dressed up and going out with their dads, uncles, and other male figures in their lives. It made me really take notice that this will be a thing we may encounter with when Punky gets older.

Who knows if they will have such an event when she’s old enough for it, but given that it was around when I was in kindergarten in like 1990, I’m sure this time honored tradition isn’t going away.

She has plenty of male role models that can take her. In fact, unlike myself, growing up, she may have to pick who to take – they may all line up outside my door. In fact, considering the overwhelming love and support she has by one very doting godfather, super awesome and loving papas, and more uncles than one kid should ever have, I don’t think she will have a problem in this department.

It’s kind of nice thinking about them drawing straws to see who GETS to take her. LOL. Take a number – or well, she may be the only girl at the party with 60 gentlemen escorting her.

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So, its times like this that some┬ápeople may worry about our daughter being raised by two moms. Where the Christian nay-sayers and the well to do marriage equality oppositions would be up in arms that my sweet girl just can’t possibly grow up a well adjusted, loved, and well rounded young lady without a dad in her life.

Well, it’s times like this – when my Facebook feed is covered with all sorts of families displaying their little girls and their male figures going off on dates. It’s times like this that makes me remember just how lucky Miss Punky is. She won’t ever want for a date to something like this. I am so happy to know she’s so blessed in that way.

There are plenty of opportunities I worry, as her mom, that she will miss out on things that other kids get to experience. And, when I saw the picture of my soon-to-be seven year old niece headed off with her male figure, my sister’s current beau, and not her father, it reminds me that she had two parents – a mom and a dad – when she was conceived.

In the end, she’s seen her ‘dad’ a handful of times in her life and I wouldn’t envy her experience for the world. That poor girl has had it tough in the dad department. People need to remember, that just because you have a dad, doesn’t mean you HAVE a dad. And, it’s times like this that I have to salute those men who stand up and take up that role for little girls like my sweet sweet niece – whom I have seen grow up and blossom from birth. I have seen her knocked down and kicked around by the dad she was given.

I’m not sure what I’m getting at, except that seeing all those pictures from the family and friends who have little girls old enough to experience something I’ve never really seen the value in – based on my own experiences – it flashed me forward to what our future may hold.

And all I can see if the line of gentlemen callers in her family and extended family that will be banging down the door to be the first to escort Miss Punky to her first “Papa/Uncle Date Night.” No dad required.

And we are just fine with that. She will have quite the choices to make when the time comes!

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My Kid Has Two Moms. We Still Celebrate Father’s Day.

So, in a house with two moms, Father’s Day isn’t really celebrated the traditional way. Yes, K and and I have dads and we celebrate them, along with both our stepdads. But, I have made it my mission to make sure that Punky also gets to celebrate this day. I don’t ever want her to feel out of place because she can’t celebrate this day too.

So, we have implemented Papa/Uncle Day.

Punky has several Papas and even more Uncles and she has one very awesome Godfather. So, we have decided to make sure that all of them know how much we appreciate them in Punky’s life. I decided we needed to do something extra special this year, so this crafty Mommy got to work and started making SHIRTS.

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The six bags are for the six men she got to see today. My family lives three hours away, so we didn’t get to see them, but those shirts will be delivered later this month when we go to visit. So my dad, stepdad, and brother should be looking forward to their very own “saurus” shirt to match Punky’s!

All in all, we had a great day. Punky got to play with her cousins. We ate great food and had great company. I will say she almost gave me a heart attack when she took a tumble down her Grammy’s stairs. It was 8 carpeted stairs, but she fell backwards and upside down all of them. All I could do was scream since I was not anywhere near her to catch her.

It scared her more than anything and it damn near killed ME! Anyway, she’s ok and is no worse for wear. We had a great Papa/Uncle Day!