Can I Borrow Your Backyard?

Holy smokes, people. I didn’t really think about how much is costs to have a stupid wedding ceremony. See, I know earlier I was all “Yay Wedding!” “Yay walking down the aisle!” That was before I went to price venues for an affair such as our wedding. Are you kidding me? $2000 for like three hours? Honestly, I have the food taken care of, I don’t need a dance floor or anything fancy. I just need a place to walk down the aisle in a pretty dress and say I DO to the love of my life.

Is that really so much to ask for?

We are parents of a small child and I don’t have the cash to have even a small affair. I mean, sure we could save it up for a while, but then the wedding would never happen, because we really are the worst savers on the planet! LOL.  And, anyone who knows me personally just laughed out loud for real, hopefully you aren’t drinking anything. Sorry about your nose ….

Anyway, so I am thinking about just crashing someone’s backyard. You know, put some lawn chairs out and pay homage to my redneck roots. Here I am rolling my eyes right now. Seriously, that just won’t ever happen.

But, I suppose, eventually I will make this work. There’s got to be a nice place I can have a decent wedding ceremony and not have to give my imaginary second born child as payment. (We can’t give up the first one, they’d give her back, and we aren’t having a second one, now we’re screwed!) Heh, but really, planning a wedding is expensive!

We have a date though, in May, hopefully. I am really shooting for that, regardless of what we do. And, we will technically be getting married before that, legally, with the paper and all that signed in a month – maybe less, as soon as we get some information from Iowa on how we have to proceed. I don’t want to be driving all the way to Iowa (I know, I know it’s only 2 hours) and find out that we weren’t fully prepared.

I sent an email to the county recorder’s office there on Labor Day and haven’t heard anything yet. I figure they are busy with a lot of midwesterners with the same questions I have about same-sex marriage, since the IRS ruling that just came out. I’m sure I’m not the only one with the questions on how to do this properly. And, Iowa is the closest state we can do it when we are smack dab in the middle of the country. I swear, the midwest needs to get with the program for crying out loud.

So, we have a semi-plan for the trip to Iowa, now we just need to figure out how to make the ceremony nice and still keep it reasonable  for our pockets. It’s really going to be a frivolous expense anyway, but I am set that I will have my day to walk down the aisle. Our mothers will be able to see us stand in front of our friends and family and proclaim our love to the person we have shared the last decade with. Our fathers will have the chance to walk us down the aisle, give us away and dance at our wedding. It will happen. It will.

In other news, I’m still working the night shift, getting off at midnight. I’m still doing a fill in supervisor job in the hopes of making it permanent. Keep your fingers crossed for me, it’s a great opportunity and it’s definitely what I want to do.

And, as always, it allows me to do great things with Punky that I wouldn’t normally be able to do. K and I decided that for pictures that aren’t ‘creeper worthy’ or nude pictures and stuff that I don’t actually ever post, I am not going to password protect, because damnit, I hate doing it. So, for your viewing pleasure, here’s what we have been doing!

Over the last holiday weekend, Punky helped me cook spaghetti. She really just stirred her own pot of cold, salty noodle water and nibbled on the uncooked noodles.






We also spent some time at Barnes and Noble for the first time with Punky. She had a nice time with their Lego display thing.



Tuesday we went to story time at the library. I didn’t get a chance to get any pictures of her there, because the story time was too little for her and she was too busy. We may try storytime for toddlers next time.

Then today we went for a little outing to the store this morning. I am just loving the fact that she walks to the car by herself and she can hold my hand, even if she doesn’t really want to.

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She climbs up the stairs, she takes a little break and then of course, becomes distracted by things on the way, but we get there eventually. I know I have more patience than K does in this department, but we are working on it! Our little girl is getting bigger and bigger. Her half birthday is on Saturday! We will likely have a little celebration for her 18 months. I’m sure I will have pictures for you then too!

Hope everyone had a great week and has a great weekend!


Peyton’s Dr. Seuss Extravaganza!

I had intended to take more pictures. I had intended to do more things. I swear, her party was not as awesome or as awesomely documented as I would have liked. It was a nice party and everyone seemed to enjoy it! Most of all the birthday girl. I didn’t take nearly as many pictures as I would have liked, but my partner’s sister did, so I will get those and when I do, I might do a part 2 of the party.

So I spent a ton of time Pinning things on Pintrest for inspiration and things. I made the decorations for the party, but it was much cooler in my head. I spent a ton of time on this, and didn’t really take great pictures of them. But, in the end, the result was pretty cool.


I had an awesome woman at work who made Punky’s party dress. I love it! That is one of my favorite parts of the party is seeing her in this dress. Since the theme was Dr. Seuss, I found the most awesome dress and had someone make something similar. She looked like a tiny little Cindy Lou Woo. I freaking love it and she only tried to eat it in the car seat!

partydressAgain, I wish I had taken more pictures, because I would have gotten more of other people holding Punky. Especially of my partner holding her. As it stands, I don’t have those pictures, hopefully someone else took them. My brother and my mom came up to visit though and I did get that picture, which was great. They live a good 3 hours away and made a special trip just for her first birthday party, so it was great!


I had another girl at work who made her cake and the cake pops for our guests. She did an awesome job as well. Punky really enjoyed her cake. I have the most pictures of her eating the cake and really digging into it. We had to actually put her hand in the cake because she didn’t want to touch it. Then once she licked her hand of the cake, she just used her pincer grasp to pick up tiny pieces of cake. It was kind of cute, she was being such a lady!


I took more pictures, but these were my favorites in each category. When I get more I will post some. All in all, we have a great bunch of family and friends and we are so thankful for each and every one of them. I know that attending a party for a one year old is a little silly and having one is even more silly, but she’s pretty much a miracle kid to me.

She’s the dream I never thought we would have come true, so to be able to celebrate such an awesome milestone in her life, is more of a big deal to us than to her. I’m just glad we have the chance to have a party for a one year old at all!

Besides, this face right here, was worth any pictures I couldn’t get at the party! This is one of her presents from her uncle and aunt. She loves this thing and her expression when she first saw it out of the package just lit up my day!


We also had her one year pictures taken by my very good best friend. She says she hates every picture she took, mostly because our kid is so busy and moving around she wasn’t very cooperative. Not because she’s not adorable! I haven’t seen them yet, but I am sure they are awesome, because my friend does an awesome job with any subject she is given! So, we get some of those edited and looked at, I may be able to show off this super adorable dress more!