When I stumble onto a new blog, the first thing I look at is the “About” page, so I suppose I should write something up.

I am an almost 30-something American woman living in the middle of the Midwest. I am one part of a lesbian couple, the biological mother to our 2 year old daughter.


I am in love with pink. I am an avid hobby photographer. I am a keepsake mommy. A curious observer. A homebody. I don’t cook and I only clean if I have to. I refer to my kid as “the kid”. I’m pro-life for myself, pro-choice for you. I’m anti-veggies. I’m a  democrat. I’m a retail therapy shop-a-holic. I’m a Facebook addict. I have an Etsy Shop that sells LGBT baby shower printable invitations. I have more Pins on Pinterest than I can do in a three lifetimes. My favorite sound is my kid’s laugh. My favorite smell is fresh cut grass. I hated being pregnant. I love reading outside. I am short and stout, don’t tip me out, nothing will come out. I curse a lot. I don’t care if you don’t like me. It would be nice if you did.

I’m an atheist, lesbian Mommy teaching my daughter the value of being kind, tolerant, and a decent human being.

This is my thoughts on politics (or lack thereof), religion, and parenting. We are everyday parents raising a toddler. We are just like everyone else, we just don’t care for religious indoctrination and we happen to be gay!

16 thoughts on “About

  1. Thank you for stopping by my blog and the follow. Congratulations! You are my 50th follower! I wish it came with a prize or something, but alas, it does not, just a big thank you for your interest! I look forward to reading more of your posts as well. Peace.

    • Teaching with a distinct motive in mind – especially to sway a person one way or another, is indoctrination. At least in my book. 🙂 But, teaching, just to learn and teach, that’s not indoctrination. Besides, you have to teach for there to be a decision made intellectually.

  2. Since I’m on the outside looking in (. (or the inside looking out. not sure.) … it’s certainly a lot easier … I don’t have a kid to worry about … when I take a risk, it’s my own risk (well, my fiancee is effected, but she is a grown up) …

    And, keep in mind that I’m more of a comedian than a philosopher, so if I’m coming off preachy — it’s unintentional …

    I was raised Catholic, and I wish my mom would have at the very least taught me about ALL religions — so, I could see the fallacies before I turned 33.

    But, I would say that since there is no doctrine for atheism/agnosticism, then it’s not indoctrination. Christians often try to make us guilty by mixing apples and oranges … but teaching a kid to put science and reason ahead of faith and religion … is not being manipulative … it’s being a responsible human being …

    We are honest with kids about Santa Claus … why would we want them to fall into a crowd that might tell them that they are born in sin … if they continue to sin they will burn in hell for eternity … and the ultimate reward for good behavior is received AFTER death. Anyone who has their number one goal set to be fulfilled after they die … could not properly approach life with the appropriate sense of urgency.

    Again, reaching out more than preaching …

    • I completely agree with you! I definitely want to teach my child about all the religions and make sure she knows about what other people believe in. I think it incredibly important to be educated in what you believe and why you believe it.

      At this point, I need to learn about other religions myself. That is another goal of this blog for me. I want to explore different religions and make sure that I know why I believe what I believe. I can then pass on the knowledge to my daughter so she can make her own decisions.

      You make valid points and it may be something I need to elaborate on, because I think that point of my mission in parenting is not quite clear.

      I appreciate your thoughts and taking the time to relay them!

  3. I recently found your blog through Reddit, and just wanted to let you know how much I am enjoying reading your posts. I am a 27-year-old mom living in the Midwest as well, and I have recently decided I am agnostic. (My husband has always been agnostic.) It’s very hard to be in the “Bible belt” and want liberty in politics and to not identify with a religion, and be able to find like-minded people, let alone friends. I am having a hard time finding any friends with kids that I can discuss things with, as all the moms I have met here, I originally met through a church almost 2 years ago.

    I agree with indoctrination going both ways, so I want to raise our daughter (and future children) to know about ALL religions, all the choices she could make, and let her decide for herself as she gets older what she believes in. To make choices for herself without being told what she should think.

    Thank you for your blog – I’ve subscribed on Google reader, and I’m glad to have finally found a parenting blog I can relate to.

  4. Oh, Barbara! You are so sweet! I am so glad that you have found this blog and my experiences so enlightening. I am trying to showcase our normal life as well as our spiritual life, or lack thereof. Some of your comments have brought about a new topic for me to discuss with myself and in turn, with you! Guilt! I am so glad that you find this helpful, I started the blog, scared to death about the reception I would get, I was scared of how I would be perceived by others. Now, you reaffirmed that I am glad that I started it because I couldn’t find like minded parents and now I found you! 🙂

  5. I saw that you just commented and I believe we live in the same area, although I am on the KS side. (that snow storm was a pain in the ass!) drop me a line if ever you want to talk with another midwestern mom, with anxiety, in a same-sex couple/family. Take care and enjoy those Gymboree classes!

    • Thanks for stopping by! I did think we were likely in the same area. We still have the snow mounds in the huge piles and they are starting to melt today. I have a feeling it will take weeks for them to melt!

    • Hooray!! We don’t do much religion talk on this blog, but mostly because its not something we think about! 😉 But, I’m so glad we are following each other!

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