Dear Women Who Are Upset With Women’s March

Your privilege is showing. Might wanna tuck it back in.

Yes. I said it. Once again, not everything is about you. But because you are looking from only inside your own small bubble and the things we march for don’t affect you, it’s stupid and inconvenient to you. You don’t have to feel like YOU are affected and need to march, but you can still support those of us who do feel the need to march for our rights.

It’s called being a good human being. If you’re religious, it’s about loving your neighbor, feeding the poor, healing the sick, and helping the less fortunate. But that’s not what you are really about, right? Let’s get real for a minute.

JUST BECAUSE YOU AREN’T AFFECTED OR YOU DON’T FEEL THE BURDEN OR FEAR, DOESN’T MEAN IT’S NOT REAL.

The reason you don’t feel oppressed as a women is because you likely have never had to justify your need or want to have access to contraception. Your reproductive rights are under attack, because you don’t believe in abortion, so why should anyone else? Perhaps you don’t know a woman who was raped by a family member and forced into an abortion at the age of 13. News flash, its still happening and this isn’t just about YOU.

The reason you don’t feel like transgendered people should have the right to use the bathroom of their preferred gender, is because you are scared of things you are unfamiliar with and is uncomfortable for you. Your unwillingness to get to know or learn more about a real plight for these women, again shows you don’t get the point. This isn’t about YOU.

The reason you don’t want to have gun safety or regulations because you have never felt the sadness or anguish of having your sons, brothers, and fathers gunned down in the streets, just because of the color of their skin. Just because you haven’t experienced it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. This isn’t about YOU.

The reason you don’t want to provide healthcare to millions of those who can’t afford it, is because you don’t struggle to  afford the high premiums or you aren’t caring for a sick child or parent – as most underprivileged Americans – because the country is tailored to you. You don’t know the burden of the multiplying hospital and medical bills for life saving medication and surgeries for your children.

You don’t want to pay higher taxes, it’s your hard earned money? I guess you’d rather use that extra cash to take your kids to Disney World than help save a sick kiddo who’s parent can’t afford healthcare – or find a job to provide it. This isn’t about YOU.

The reason you tell me “your marriage is safe” is because you haven’t had to wait 12 years to get married to the person you have spent half you life with. You didn’t have to fight for a simple piece of paper that gives you the benefit of seeing your spouse in the hospital when they are dying. You don’t know the struggle of those of us who know the feeling of being turned away from housing, employment, and our own families based on the person you love. This isn’t about you.

You aren’t a victim? That’s great. I’m glad for you. That doesn’t mean that the laws of this country aren’t in some serious need for change. You want me to just “respect the president.” but, perhaps you haven’t been sexually assaulted on the street by a stranger who just decided you were easy prey that day. OR a family member who felt it was their right to take your body and do what they wish with it.You haven’t been raped at a party and then told it was your fault because your skirt was too short. It’s just locker room talk? But it’s not. Its happening. Everyday. Women being assaulted by being emboldened by statements such as these. This isn’t about you.

You want to build a wall because you don’t want to let in the scary scary Muslims and Mexicans. But you don’t have to worry about your family being broken up, just by the circumstances of the random places you were born. You are born in a country of privilege, This isn’t about you. Lest you forget, this country was founded on immigrants, to keep them out, is not only selfish, but ignorant.

You don’t feel like a second class citizen? Then you haven’t asked your male co-workers what they make in the same job you occupy. You haven’t lived in a small town where the only jobs are fast food places. Places for “high schoolers” are full time jobs to a lot of mothers and women who can’t afford to leave their small towns in search of something better. But they don’t deserve to make more money, because those jobs, the “unskilled” jobs that you benefit from on a daily basis, aren’t worth the same standards and respect as yours. You don’t know the struggle to put food on the table and clothes on your kids. This isn’t about you.

Here’s the deal, I don’t care if you march or not, but don’t discourage those of us who do. For those of us this is about. Because the country is tailored to cater to your demographic and that means you are fortunate not to be affected by these problems. Just because you aren’t affected, doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. Doesn’t mean the march wasn’t necessary. At the end of the day, this is about fighting for equality. For justice. For the American dream for all who wish to stand and show up for it.

I don’t discount that this march doesn’t seem like a big deal to you. I can see why you think it’s not important. You don’t have the personal story that the women who are marching have. This isn’t about you. That doesn’t mean you can’t look outside your bubble and see that this is a real issue. These are real problems.

You would rather keep the status quo, because it doesn’t affect you and changing it will affect you, that’s not ok. You don’t take action because you don’t benefit from it. That’s selfish and let’s me know what kind of person you really are. You don’t have to agree with the March, you can even think it inconvenient, but don’t say it’s not necessary.

Don’t call me a snowflake, when you were praising those who depicted our first black president as a monkey or held up signs hanging him. Don’t tell me I’m bashing men, because I want to be treated equal to them in the workplace, home, and country. I don’t hate men. I hate that men get all the rights and no one seems to give a damn.

Don’t tell me to stop acting like a victim. I’m not a victim, I don’t claim to be. I claim to be a woman. A warrior. And my right to peaceful protest is in the same constitution as the guns you so tightly cling to. I publicly condemn the violence and destruction of property that happens in protests.

“Treat Others as you Wish to be Treated” but only if it benefits me. That’s the way of this country right now. We are all spoiled, selfish and entitled. “We want OUR way, it’s the ONLY way, if it positively BENEFITS only US and people like us.” We talk about the kids of this generation, of the ‘radical’ millennials who are marching in the streets. What you are really upset about is if these ‘spoiled and entitled’ kids get their way, your way of life will suddenly change.

You will no longer be better than someone else. You will no longer reap the benefits of the rewards to the few in this country. You will have to respect those with different beliefs and watch your tongue and avert your eyes. You will be uncomfortable. You will have to take responsibility for your actions.

Change is hard. But being honorable and respectful and a decent human being is harder. Fighting for what is right, not what is easy, that’s the challenge.

But, just as you don’t feel the need to march, doesn’t mean it’s not necessary. Just because you don’t want things to change, doesn’t mean they don’t need to. Just because you don’t see into my life, live my truth, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist. The march isn’t about those who aren’t affected. If you aren’t affected, or you don’t feel you are affected, that’s fine. I respect your right not to march.

Respect MY right to march. Because this IS about me.

Advertisements

3 thoughts on “Dear Women Who Are Upset With Women’s March

What Do You Think?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s