Nap Time Has Morphed to “Rest Time”

When once she was a champion sleeper, bedtime and nap time has become an increasingly difficult thing for our kid lately. Along with potty training, she is very much telling us just what she thinks about us telling her what to do. I read a few articles on potty training that makes the point not to make it a chore. Kids will get bored and less likely to do it if it’s a chore.

But, how the hell do you not make a potty break a chore every hour on the dot? I haven’t figured it out yet.

As for sleeping, Miss Punky was doing some pretty violent reactions to bedtime for a while – she turned into the Tasmanian devil and would kick and bang on her bedroom door and cry and sob and scream. To the point where, I am told, she has been up and down and she still makes up stories to get out of sleep.

All of which are normal for a kid her age, I know, but it’s frustrating for Kim and Grammy – I’m sure! So, I’ve been following “Life with Roozle” about another two mom family who let’s their kid color herself to sleep. I am not sure how they started it, but I just love the idea.

So, the other day, when I was laying Punky down for her nap before work, I said, “You just have to rest. You don’t have to go to sleep if you don’t want to, but you need to make sure you stay in your bed for a few hours and rest.” Of course, she says, “OK, Mommy.” I handed her a book and so far, from what I can tell, she’s pretty receptive to the idea. So, for now, we are working on “resting time”

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This passed week I was moved to a new position at work. I work in a call center for prescription benefits and mail order insurance. So, I have been working as a “Senior Representative” which means I take calls from our customer service agents and answer their questions or help them as well as taking over the escalated callers. It’s just as stressful and overwhelming as it sounds.

Recently, I was put into the position of training new senior representatives and helping them transition from the call center floor to our team and integrate into their new role. I have loved every minute of it. It’s great to get to be in a position to teach and develop our employees in a personal one on one basis.

This week, I have been moved, temporarily I believe, to a position of Executive Recovery. It’s basically the Senior representatives’ help line. So I take the escalated escalations from our senior representatives and help them help our customer service representatives.

For those who have been reading a while, especially my personal family and friends, know that I have interviewed for a supervisor position twice now. It’s been about a year since my last, very disappointing, interview. So disappointing that I ended up breaking emotionally and it really helped brim over my now diagnosed PTSD(rooted in childhood trauma) and Anxiety disorder with agoraphobic tendencies.

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I have been working with my therapist for almost  year and I feel like things are going well enough to take on this new position. Stressful that it may be, I am the type of person who needs to be in charge, needs to be in control and I like to have projects and recognition, this is the best way for me to do this.

So, I’m in a new position at work. My attendance is getting better, where I was calling in due to anxiety every week at least once a week, up to three days a week, I am back to making regular checks, with standard pay – thank goodness.  My anxiety and PTSD is one of the many reasons we are not living in our own place anymore. I couldn’t make myself go to work and the result of the disappointing emotional break that was that interview is part of the problem.

Here I am, a year later, stronger, and I’d say healthier. So, I am ready to make that leap to a new step towards the ultimate goal of supervisor within my company.  So, happy day, this new role will be another stepping stone to do just that.

Monday was my day off, as is today – but Monday we had a nice day out with the moms. It’s a rare occasion when we all three get out and about, with our agoraphobic tendencies and the combined anxiety between both of us moms about strangers, large crowds, and new places. Not to mention, my severe anxiety in the car, especially driving somewhere I have never been. So, needless to say, around here – most of the fun things are to be driven to and it makes for a stressful outing on everyone.

But, we try and make it work. Monday was one of those days. For her half birthday, I redeemed some of my reward points from work and got a $50 gift card to a place called T-Rex Cafe here in the city. We finally made our way there and celebrated with our little. Who was ever so excited!

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I thought at first, she would be scared by all the dinosaurs and instead, she was like a child with ADHD, she was pointing at everything, looking at everything, exclaiming at everything. Oh. And RAWRing at everything. LOL.

Of course, her Mama was also, like a kid in a dinosaur heaven as well.

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I think Kim had fun showing her all the different things that were moving and getting into the spirit of just being a kid, with our kid. It was a great time for all of us. Luckily, we had the gift card, because that character cup alone was 8 bucks and don’t get me started on the food

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It was good, but we went for lunch… needless to say, I was glad for the free money, I didn’t spend more than 15 bucks on lunch and we got to splurge a little in their gift shop.

SO, we won’t be going regularly, but it was a nice time for the three of us to get out of the house and celebrate this nice Fall weather that is rolling in.

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Grammy and Papa were at the hospital with Papa’s sudden sickness they were dealing with, so it took everyone’s mind off the potentially bad news we didn’t receive (thank goodness) and got us out and about. We did call Grammy on the phone, while at the restaurant and told her all about the dinosaurs.

It’s just another great moment in parenting, when you know your kiddo is close to grandparents and family and they are loved just as much in return.

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Everything Smells Like Pee…..

And the joys of potty training. Round one, week one has been a touch and go success around here. With Punky asking for two days straight if she could “go potty training Mommy?” we got out the panties and tried again. This time, we are in a much more stable environment, a routine we are used to and she is pretty well adjusted to the move. With three floors, we have three potty chairs. Thank goodness for Grammy’s Craigslist habit. LOL.

So there’s a potty chair on the upstairs bathroom by her bedroom, one in the livingroom, and one in the basement of our room. No matter what floor she’s on, we got her potty needs covered.

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So, one week ago today – Miss Punky was cheering on the Kansas City Chiefs (who lost) while exercising her potty skills.

Look, I started by reading into that Potty Train Your Kid in Three Days thing, but that didn’t really seem to work out. We didn’t really have a plan. We just started. Luckily, we have a lot of support in the house. The first day went not so great, all accidents – no real success. The second day she got into the groove, she got the hang of things. We got her on a schedule and she would sit on the potty no questions asked.

By the third day, we struggled with desire to sit on the potty. Lots of asserting of willpower and headstrong NO resounded through our house. It was frustrating and not just a little annoying. We have been using pull-ups at night, and we still get periodical resistance from her to sit on the potty. We have resorted to bribery with candy and toys and new Batman shirts. Yes, we are not above bribery.

So, we have had a few rough patches, it’s been a real roller coaster and by far the most unfortunate part of parenting. I feel like someone needs to invent a way to engineer already potty trained toddlers, so parents don’t have to chase their kids around. So, for now, we are doing alright, hanging in there – really, it’ pretty damn tough.

And … everything smells like pee!

Today was the first day without an accident, minimal resistance, though she still protested. We even went out to our friend “Button’s” house and had a little play date. We took her potty chair with us and set it up in my friend’s bathroom and it worked like a charm. A potty break every hour and smore’s cupcakes wasn’t a bad bribery tactic.

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Punky and Button are about a year apart in age, and it is so cute to see them get together recently and play together. Button is at the stage where he is playing side by side – so it really confuses Punky. She keeps asking him to play with her and asking me why he won’t play with her. It’s actually pretty darn cute really, her confusion. His mom and I talk about how they are going to get married someday and be able to talk about how they grew up with each other and were best friends. You know the stories. Those love stories of the people who get married to their childhood friends, the ones they have known forever.

Or at least – they will date at some point. Haha!

So, it’s been quiet around here. I’m working til midnight now, so I have a busy day and a tired night – uber sleepy mornings with the little one. I have been reading all the joys, heartache, and stories. I have just been too tired to write our own stories. Miss Punky has been doing lots of fun things and we have had a great many moments around here, besides the potty dances and songs.

My little one has been increasingly full of more attitude, spontaneous whining and outbursts. And then she turns around and asks to hold my hand.

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We also had our first Sunday Movie Night tonight. So it was a great time the three of us just hanging out and watching Rise of the Guardians. It was a cute movie, and we took some potty breaks in between the hours, but overall, as long as I could wrangle her attentions to cuddling with me, it was a great night!

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And it’s moments like this that will help her make it to three!

Speaking of three, we had a half birthday last week as well. We celebrate those things around here. Miss Punky is half way to three, can you believe it?! I know I can’t! Half birthdays are always full of a sweet treat and maybe a little toy or something, nothing fancy, blow out a candle and remind Mommy it’s almost time to start planning YET ANOTHER birthday party.

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The same night, we spent some time with two of her cousins, the older and the younger. Mommy went through all her clothes and gave them away to her younger cousin.

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The joys of growing bigger and growing out of your clothes. In shirts and dresses, this kid is wearing anywhere from a 3T to a 4/5 in girls. Size 8 in shoes! And yet her pants are still 24 months-2T, but mostly for the length, but anything bigger is too big in the waist. It’s just nuts how much she has grown and every time we sit around and have a conversation – a real conversation, I just find myself staring at this little person, this tiny human in awe.

Like I still can’t believe she’s mine. I can’t believe I’m her Mommy and damnit, I can’t believe how incredibly lucky we are!

The end of this catch-up is the wedding of Kim’s brother. It was a beautiful and long awaited affair. It made me cry tears of joy and made me so happy for them. It also gave me an excuse to get Miss Punky all dressed up and have a place to go!

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And we got a new family picture, which is always the highlight of my week.

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Now … if I could stop smelling pee….