This week was really all about exploring the adventures we could have with Mommy. And learning that sometimes, the best “me time” is time with the little girl who makes your world go ’round. I’m exploring and learning new things too!
So, I’ve been uber blah this last week. Uber tired and uber in need of some “me time”. I’m starting to wonder if there ever will be a time when I can take a little “me time” and not feel super damn guilty about it. You would think, as I presume most people do, that a working mom gets a break when she leaves the house for work. Well, let me set the record straight.
That is not the case. Work is not a vacation. Work is not a walk in the park, wind in your hair, sand between your toes. Work is stress. Work is tiring. Work is down right annoying. For any working mom. Period. Work is not a break.
And to think, with all this need for “me time” the thing that got me out of my funk was a weekend out with Punky. Literally, we spent all weekend together and it was refreshing to get out of the apartment. It was refreshing to do things with her. It was refreshing to see her little face light up and to have her all to myself.
Saturday, we went to the very first birthday party she was invited to. Now, that doesn’t seem like a whole lot of anything, I’m sure. But, being the Mommy I am, I’m all about firsts.
I learned from our time at this party, with six or seven other two or almost two year olds that Punky isn’t really very social. She doesn’t really have the need or want to play with other kids. She’s content to read a book in the corner or play with a small toy by herself. Chaos ensues around her and she’s just sitting there, reading a book.
I haven’t decided if this is a good thing or a bad thing yet. But, it does make me think she may need to go to a daycare or a pre pre-school or something soon. I think it has a lot to do with her not being around other kids. I find myself wishing I was still working night shift so that I could take her on more play dates. So I could expose her to more people and adventures and experiences. If only to get her socially less awkward when it comes to other kids.
Punky shares naturally and frankly, she doesn’t give a shit if another kid takes her toy. She just gives them a weird look, like she’s not sure what just happened and moves on to another toy. So, in that way, she’s pretty darn awesome. But, I also want her to stand up for herself. Not in the way that I was raised, with violence, but at least to assert herself. This is something we can’t really work on right now, because she’s not even two and she’s really not vocal enough to be assertive. But, it’s something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately.
Worried Mommy Syndrome kicks in sometimes, when we are these types of situations, and then suddenly she finds a toy she really likes, that all the other kids are also excited about and like magic, she interacts. And it reminds of that she’s going to be just fine. She’s just finding her way. She’s just two and she’s just trying to figure out herself and others.
By the way, did you notice that the toy she gravitated to was a toy likely geared towards boys. That’s becoming a theme lately with our budding toddler. When I ask her which shirt she wants to wear, I give a choice of blue ‘boyish’ designs, pink ‘girlish’ designs and usually a neutral type shirt and she generally goes for the dinosaurs, the cars, the blue and greens. (Speaking of colors, this kid knows her colors!!) Am I concerned my daughter likes boy things? No, not really. I think the gender stereotyping is ridiculous. Do I think it’s too early to tell if she’s ‘gay’ or ‘gender creative’ like sweet little CJ on Raising My Rainbow. Yes. I do think it’s too soon. I haven’t even really given it thought. We make joke here and there that “Mama dressed her” or “My little tomboy” or whatever, but seriously, she’s too small to make assumptions on what labels she will have and who she will be when she grows up.
But, when I tell people we are going to have a “Cars” themed party for Miss Punky for her second birthday, just today I got a sideways glance and a snarky tone accompanied by the “For a little girl?” Like it was the most foreign concept we had ever heard of. I don’t think it’s absurd. I don’t think it’s out of balance. Punky likes her babies and her stuffed animals, she loves Doc McStuffins and reading. She also loves cars and trucks and playing with Mommy’s shoes.
For crying out loud, she’s a toddler. She doesn’t know, nor does she need to know the difference in what ‘genders are supposed to play with what.” Its all a damn marketing tactic anyway.
Anyway, we went to the zoo yesterday and got to see the animals. Our zoo just got a penguin exhibit and it was by far her favorite place to be. She kept banging on the glass and screeching at the penguins all delighted. Of course, it really kinda made me think of ‘Finding Nemo’ and the poor fish in the tank and what the penguins must be thinking and feeling about an overgrown toddler (she’s kind of a giant) banging on the window of their home!
We fed some sheep and some deer and had a conversation with a goat. She has also gotten so very good at her animal sounds. You know, they weren’t kidding when they said it would feel like overnight when your toddler decides to start communicating with clarity. While there are days I have no idea what she’s saying, there are other days, she walks around the house saying things like “Oh God.” and “Way Cool.” or “Oh Man.” I have no idea where she got these phrases, perhaps from her moms, but I suppose I’m grateful the ‘naughty’ words aren’t sticking in her brain!
Instead she’s getting excellent at when and how to use “please” and with prompting, she wows people with her “thank you.” Anyone who says a kid needs to grow up with religion to be a good person, is mistaken. This kid, the kid with two moms and no religion, has better manners than I have seen in a lot of kids her age. She also shares like nobody’s business, she gives hugs when she feels they are appropriate and has been known to pat the head of a person who may or may not need a good toddler spirit to brighten their day.
Throughout the day, we took a few pit stops to have snacks and rest Mommy’s feet. We stopped to have a chat with Buddha, but well, Punky wasn’t really interested in rubbing his belly or even sitting next to him. Though, I thought it would be a cute picture, looking back, I can see why the overweight bald man may terrify a young child. She just wasn’t having ANY of it.
Instead we moved on to greener pastures and better things to do while at the zoo.
It was a little chilly and Punky had no nap, so a tantrum was sure to happen. She found the opportune time to do so, while riding the tram to Africa.
However, it was short lived before we had a nice walk along the path and a dance with her shadow. Complete with twirls, wiggles AND a little march around.
A ride in the wagon, some animal crackers, a few animals that were finally out in the chilly weather and we were finished for the day and on our way back home. We made a stop at the gift shop and got an elephant and a new zoo sippy cup to take home. Fell asleep on the way home and the weekend was finished.
While I am sure I could have used a little “me time” – spending time with this little one has renewed my spirit, added a little calm in my life, even with her chaos and tantrums. We spent time out of the apartment and it was nice to spend that time with her. In the end, we had a great weekend and this Mommy is renewed and refreshed for a new week.
The last time I did a Day In The Life was when Punky was 7 months ago. I do so love to do these. I did her daily chronology since she’s been little bitty at 4 months, 6 months, and 15 months. I love to see the changes in the daily life of our kiddo. It’s so fun to look back at them and see how much she has changed and grown.
** As always, for newer readers, please excuse the state of my cluttered, lived in home and know that time stamps are on the pictures but it doesn’t mean she’s literally doing the action from one picture to another. I usually get distracted and she gets moving faster!
8:12 AM: We started out in a great mood this morning.
8:17AM: In true Punky fashion lately, her switch was flipped from happy to cranky in only a short moment. She sat on the potty while I ran her bath water. This is a normal thing for us, but she usually takes her bath at night, but we were headed to the doctor’s office this morning.
8:22AM: She was not having the bath! She loves baths. Once again, my Punky is asserting her upset twice in the span of 10 minutes. I know – it astonishes me too!
8:34AM: We had a short respite from anger while eating a little oatmeal pouch for breakfast, drinking milk and hanging with the Giggle Bellies.
8:40AM: She brushed her teeth without complaint. It was great to have a small moment of good mood. Brushing teeth was her favorite time of day, along with bath, which we had a problem with bath, but yay brushing teeth!
8:45AM: We had a small meltdown again when we tried to get her shoes on. She snatched the shoe out of my hand and tried her best to get the shoe on her foot, with no luck. She was super irritated with me, but we finally got her shoes on.
8:57AM: Guess what, I have no idea what she was pissed about, but we got in the car and on the way to the doctor’s appointment. Another spontaneous tantrum.
9:09AM: Exploring the doctor’s office waiting area seemed to be allow her to be less irritated. SO, she climbed all over the chairs, and it wasn’t any time before the nurse called us back.
9:16AM: She got to sit pretty on the scale and got weighed. She was 29.7 pounds today. Then she didn’t want to get off the scale at all. I knew were were at the doctor’s office, so I let her do whatever she wanted, since she was surely going to be unhappy soon – with reason.
9:56AM: After a quick look-see with the nurse and doctor, it was not so awesome when we learned we would have to get a ‘urine sample’. Hm. This Mommy was trying to figure out how we would accomplish this and KNOWING this wouldn’t go very well. By the time this picture was taken, she had the urine bag attached to her “no no area” with sticky stuff! She was pissed.
Then I was instructed to have her drink as much as possible. If she didn’t pee in this bag, we were going to have to give her a catheter. I was not able to take a picture to illustrate just what a train wreck attaching that bag was, but let me tell you – I most certainly wasn’t looking forward any kind of catheter situation with my sweet, temperamental toddler.
9:57AM: And this is how well that went. For the girl who has been sucking down her sippys at record speed, she decided this was the moment, she wanted nothing to do with that cup. I did coax her to drink a bit, but it was nothing like what I was hoping for and the whole time, I was very much dreading the likely hood of a catheter.
****I have a picture of the pee in the bag, but only to show her Mama the strangeness of a bag hanging out between our kid’s legs. I’m not showing that on the blog. Rest assured, no catheter was needed and she did in fact pee in that bag, beyond all odds****
10:02AM: This is how she felt about having that bag removed. I can’t imagine how that felt. A very ‘super sticky’ bag stuck down there and then being removed. I would feel violated too! Poor kid.
10:06AM: She had another meltdown for a good five minutes while we waited for her pee analysis. By the time she calmed down, the doctor came back in and she freaked out again. Basically, she’s fine.
So, the doctor was concerned about her sugar levels or a UTI, given her excessive drinking and peeing and it turns out her urine is fine. She is physically fine. She’s just almost two. Which means she started the “TWOS” two months early and I suppose I’m happy that’s all it is!
10:27AM: To make it up to her for basically wasting both our time and putting her through violation of her private areas – I took her to Smallcakes. It’s a cupcake shop. I think it was a success.
10:57AM: When we got home, she hung out in her room, just in time to catch a little Yo Gabba Gabba and silly faces. She made that face without prompting. I think she was telling me how she felt about the procedures she had just endured this morning.
12:16PM: I’m not sure what she did in her room up until this point. I got distracted and she was quiet. But, she came out to check on me around 1-ish and approved the new header of the blog. That I spent at least an hour on. Perhaps that’s why I was distracted!
1:03PM: She found it very amusing to be taking a nap. Every time I end up looking at her room, it just makes me sad that she pulled her star fabric off the wall and I don’t have nails to put it back up!
5:07AM: Punky took a good 2-3 hour nap and went back into toddler mode. I decided when it was time to do laundry, I would take her with me. She’s such a good little helper. I took her to the laundry room in our apartment complex, which took a good 15 minutes to get there, because we do have go up 2 flights of stairs and down 2 flights of stairs. The toddler likes to take her time.
5:18PM: Just a little moment with the cat. Let’s just mention that Kitten is the most anti-social cat I have ever met in my life. She doesn’t let anyone touch her except for Kim. The entire first 2 years we had her, I wasn’t allowed to touch her at all. So, when Punky comes over and tries to mess with her, its usually bad news. But, when the kid cries, Kitten is all over it. **PS, that’s not the cat’s blog name, that’s her actual name, because Kim and I flaked on naming her.**
7:10PM: Dinner of tortellini and garlic bread with a side of juice box and Giggle Bellies. Hence the very big smile. ALSO, she’s been eating more. Thank goodness – there for a minute, I thought we were going to have a toddler that was fueled by cookies and crackers forever!
We’ve taken to not looking her directly in the eyes during dinner time, to hopefully prolong the idea of eating things that are actually good for her. So far, if we don’t engage the beast, she eats a good portion of her dinner.
7:38PM: I took Miss Punky back to the laundry room in our apartment building to pick up the last bit of laundry from the dryer. She loves to pull the clothes out of the dryer and put it in the basket. We had a small meltdown when Mommy’s jeans got stuck and she couldn’t pull it out. Once I pulled it to start and loosened it up, she was happy as a lark.
8:10PM: Jumping on Mommy’s bed before bedtime. This is a normal bedtime routine since she was teeny tiny. Love it! Every night it’s something we all do as a family, tickles and jumping on the bed.
8:32PM: And this is when our night ends. Bedtime. Laying down with monkey and her sippy. And the start of Mommy’s quiet time to take time to write this.
So, what do your kids do all day?? Have you thought about documenting their movements throughout the day? It really is pretty fun and sort of enlightening. It also shows the growth and change in her each new time I do this!
As a quick side note, anyone interested, I finally put up Punky’s birth story. You can find that and other interesting things that have gone on in our last almost 2 years of motherhood and toddler hood by going to “Highlights of Our Journey”
**In more current events**
Our little Punky is wearing pink Dora pullups under those pjs. You wouldn’t know it, but she is! I didn’t feel it appropriate to take a picture in her undies and post it on the interwebs. I was tempted though! But after that weird search term I got before … well, that’s for another day.
Anyway, we have been tossing around the idea of potty training, but Punky isn’t yet 2 and she still can’t quite communicate with us when she is going to the bathroom. Right now, we are trying to condition her to telling us when she “poops” and when she is “wet” – neither of these has been very successful.
I’m not really interested in rushing it, but damn it would be nice to be out from under diapers. For sure. Not only are they an extra expense, with the wipes every two weeks, but they really do make the trash bags I have to carry to the dumpster super freaking heavy. A mommy can wish right?
Speaking of Mommy…. that word. That word right now, gets me every time. She’s been extra clingy and pretty darn cuddly lately. It may be because I’ve been home more than normal this last week. With sickness and utter staled out in the day job, I’ve taken more time off than usual. In fact, I’m on my third day in a row of being off, tomorrow being my last day of my impromptu vacation.
When she looks up at me with big brown eyes and just says, “Mommy.” or when she comes up on the couch and curls up on my lap and leans in real close, lips to my cheek but no kisses, and says, “Mommy?” It just melts my heart right now. Before bed, when I tuck her in and kiss her forehead, it reminds me of the reason I keep sane in moments of terrorism in this house. “Night Night Mommy.” as she curls up with her gigantic sock monkey and drinks her sippy.
We had a much better day today with Miss Punky. I actually plan to get her an appointment to see her doctor tomorrow if I can get her in, just because the shrieking for no ‘apparent’ reason has become a thing. I am not sure if her diaper is irritating her or if she has something wrong down there, but she has been doing a lot of grabbing at the “no no area”. Now, we are starting to wonder if it hurts when she pees.
And she’s been peeing a lot. This morning, she woke up to a soaked through diaper and pants, and a wet spot in her bed, I had to clean the sheets. It was almost like she wasn’t wearing any diaper at all.
So, off to the doctor with our monster to see if they can find out if she is just being a terror at almost two or if there really is something we should be concerned about.
In the meantime, we had some great fun today, driving her trucks and cars around the living room, watching Mommy figure out how to make clip art like these cuties that I created ALL BY MYSELF in Photoshop!!
I’m hoping to add clip art to my shop, so that it can be more digital instant downloads, and while I still have the invitations and party planning stuff, I can let the clip art sell itself. So far, these aren’t listed, but they are pretty darn cute, right!?
We also dusted off the Giggle Bellies yesterday and it’s been a common theme the last two days. It’s almost like “Punky Whisperer” and she sits on the couch or dancing around the living room for a full two rounds of the DVD, which luckily Mommy enjoys singing too as well.
If you haven’t ever heard of the Giggle Bellies, I highly recommend them. Take a look at them on YouTube. It literally looks like someone created them on LSD, but every kid I’ve ever seen watch them is instantly transfixed. My kid especially.
All in all, we had less shrieking – more loving and more fun today. Thank goodness, this Mommy needed a break from her break from work there for a minute and that means it was rough. If I wanted to go BACK to work for a moment, if I even contemplated it, it means it was tough. Yesterday was tough, today was sweetness.
I am very sure that I have more ideas in my head than I can possibly get out right now. If you have been reading for a while, you know I have a full time job as a customer service representative in a PBM Call Center. In my free time and usually in the evening and weekends, I also run an Etsy shop for printable invitations and decorations. I have been designing for the shop for almost a year with a great vision of making sure that parents-to-be like Kim and I had a resource to share our joy as much as straight couples.
I’ve always had some two mom invitations for baby showers, but for some reason I never thought about pregnancy announcements! Today, in a stroke of creativity, I came up with some pretty cute pregnancy announcements for the LGBT community. I only share this on my blog, because I know there are a lot of two mom households who are trying to conceive and it you are one of them, check out the link to my shop on the sidebar for discounts to blog readers.
I also would love to have any suggestions or extra awesome creative ideas from the readers of this blog. I’m hoping to grow my shop to be more than a hobby. Someday, maybe it can be something more of a job, since my full time day job is getting me down lately. Just in general, it’s not challenging me and I feel pretty damn stale right now. At least this shop, my second job, my second baby – allows me to get the challenges and the creative juices flowing – the goal I have been desperately trying to get out of my day.
I just wish I could make a living on it.
I find it adorable when my daughter watches me work, from my work station on the couch from my laptop in the living room.
In Punky news, she’s been what I like to lovingly refer to as a “Tiny Toddler Terrorist”. Literally, she’s been acting really weird. One minute she’s fine and the next minute she’s screeching for no reason at all. It’s messing with my sensibilities. Seriously. I can’t figure out what the problem is. Usually, I lay her down for a nap and she goes to sleep and it makes me think that she just wanted to lay down. She’s totally mobile, so I don’t know why she can’t just lay her little self down on her own. She climbs in and out of the bed all day, but she has to have Mommy lay her down in it to sleep.
It’s really the strangest thing ever.
She gets frustrated easily and when she gets mad about something she can’t do or can’t get to work right, she throws herself on the floor and bangs her head on the floor. There’s concrete under there, and I’m positive it hurts, though she looks at me LIKE I SLAMMED HER HEAD into the floor. For real?
All I can do is stare at her in disbelief sometimes.
She’s really so cute in public and for that I should be grateful, since frankly – most toddlers spend most of their energy being cranky and ridiculous in front of other people. It’s like an embarrassment factor that’s built in on toddlers. But, get her home and she’s a ball of “NO” and screams and throwing things around. She’s kicked the cat more times than I’m willing to admit and I have tried both time out and smacking her booty.
Neither seems to make a difference.
It seems like now is the time for the terrible twos and they have come 2 months early. She’s pretty much doing everything early. Teething, talking, colors, eating, weaning. Literally, she’s just doing everything early and I’d be ok with it, if she wasn’t being a royal pain in my ass.
And then there are cute moments, like this when she cuddles with the giant sock monkey her godparents got her.
We have been going between 99-104 degrees this week. We spent a day on the weekend out on a play date for the first time in a bit. Usually when I take this kid outside the apartment, she ends up with some sort of toddler sickness. Ugh.
So, luckily, she allowed the Fever Bug to stay on her forehead for the last 48 hours. She’s slowly getting back to normal, but we sure love exploring and learning about the ways in which our daughter can get feverish and yucky.
I know it’s probably selfish of me, but I like when she’s sickly, sorta, because she cuddles with me like this. I love when she just lays with me. She rarely sleeps with me, so this is always great when she snuggles with me. I just wish she didn’t have to feel icky to lay with me and give me snuggles and sweetness.
I have watched Kristin over at “More Than Words” participate in this adventure all last year. I was afraid it was too late to start the project, so I am starting it this year. I wanted to make sure I got to it before it was too late to start again!
The rules are simple, so basically, I just post a picture of something that represents something of significance each week. I think I will center this project around Punky of course, but perhaps, her firsts and her exploration.
As we hit the nearly two year old mark, we are embarking on more firsts and more explorations. So here’s my very first picture of the year.
We had the unfortunate experience of losing another grandmother in the family shortly after Christmas, so this weekend was the time of memory and honor to a family member. It was also the weekend we went to visit family.
We headed to farmer country. The place I grew up! I was so astonished that this is a “thing” I had to share it with others. Now you know what stock I came from. Haha.
Another three hour drive with our toddler. It was a typical drive to the Midwest Missouri home I grew up in. We spent the first day hanging out and the second day my sister and her kids came over to visit.
The third day was supposed to be our baby shower that we were throwing for my brother and his wife. Mother Nature intervened. We had 8 inches of snow in the area and we weren’t comfortable letting my brother and 8 month pregnant sister-in-law try to drive 30 minutes to a party.
We were all pretty disappointed, but it was more important for their safety than anything else!
I had to leave their gift at my mom’s so that they could have it later, since I live a good 3 hours away and we won’t be able to come back up until my new nephew is born. I got her all the must have items I needed when I was a new mommy with the First Time Mommy Survival Kit.
We also had to forgo the nearly 50 cupcakes that my sister made and the cute little shower games we had planned.
I wrapped up a bunch of miniature chocolate bars with Baby Avenger labels and they are so cute! Too cute not to show off!
In the end, I’m glad that they are safe, just sad we didn’t get to see them when we had a moment to visit. Stupid snow!
Anyway, I also spent my weekend, completely engrossed in the new book I bought with my GooglePlay money I got for Christmas. I was enraptured by “Raising my Rainbow” written by Lori Duron – the writer of a blog I read regularly. It’s the true story about her experiences raising her gender creative son who likes all things made for ‘she’. I have always been an advocate for raising kids, especially my kid, against all the gender stereotypes.
So, I wrapped up the book in just a day or so. I absolutely loved it. I recommend the book to anyone who is interested in a good read. It’s a great story with blatant honestly about parenting and difficult decisions in parenting. I really do admire her and her family. I admire their parenting. I admire their courage to share their family and while I think that Punky is really just a kid who likes all kinds of different toys, gender be damned, if she turned out to be gender creative, I’d strive to be like this supermom!
Punky got to spend time with my mom, which isn’t something that happens often, because we live so far away, but I do love these pictures.
I know my mom loves it too! She got a new baby and a few new toys for Christmas, when you have several grandparents on several sides of the family, Christmas is never ending in the beginning of the year.
All and all, the weekend was pretty good. We got snowed in and it was sort of sad about the party, but overall, we had a nice visit and a nice time. We spent time with family and people we don’t get to see very much. We did miss a lot of people because of the storm, but we are home now, again, snug in our own apartment, but the beauty of family visits are always with me each time we visit.
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